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Well, further to my post of a couple of weeks ago, it looks like it is all over between my wife and I. I now have a big question and that is on child custody. I am not looking for legal opinion, just experiences.The situation is that I am a work from home Dad. I am always available to do school, ballet, footy, swimming pick ups and drop offs. I have tailored my work life to be a Dad first and a business owner second. My soon to be ex-wife is a nursing student. She does 2 days of prac work a week and these can start as early as 7am and finish as late as 11pm. She also has compulsory a attendance day where she has to leave home just after 7 and doesn't get home till 4.30. Her studies next year will be 4 days of prac so any shifts are possible. In a nutshell, I am perfectly situated to look after the needs of our children well into the future. She is not. When she qualifies she is going to be on permanent shifts as any nurse will, and as the newbie, you could be pretty sure she'll get the crap ones. She has already 'informed' me that she will have custody, that shared custody is not in the kids best interest, and that she will find a way to make it happen!Has anyone experienced this sort of situation?
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ok, food for thought: My experience tells me that you will get a VERY sympathetic hearing from a lawyer, and they'll be happy to go to bat for you.
You'll go to court and your wife MAY not want you to have primary custody. If this is the case, you're screwed.
I'll say it again: - YOU'RE SCREWED.
You will spend a HUGE amount of money trying to fight her, and NO COURT IN THE LAND will take the kids away from their mum (remember Arthur Freeman? people like him made it impossible for men to get custody in a situation of conflict). I believe no matter what approach you take, unless your wife is a drug-taking hospitalising harmer of children who refuses to relent, she gets the kids. You get to pay the maximum in child support according to your income, and if you're REALLY lucky, you MIGHT get her to agree to allow you to see the kids.
If you think like this, you might get an outcome you're not unhappy with, and you might have a relationship with your kids, and you might have a few dollars left at the end of the process.
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I'm also in the same position given I'm a self employed sparky, my advice to you is if you're able to pick up and drop of the children without impacting on you're work situation go for it, my r/ship has really improved with the children to the point of them telling me they cant wait to be older enough to live with me given mum never makes time for us and you do !!
You haven't divorced the children only you're wife !
Cheers 
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