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Im a 23 year old female, and have an issue with a male friend of mine also 23.
I'll give some background info about him 1st so you know where i'm coming from.
He has always been a confident, goodlooking, smart, fit, good morals, bubbly and socialable guy, but in the last 12 months, his behaviour has changed so much that i and his family are concerned. To start with, he called off his 4 year relationship with his girlfriend, who he was living with at the time. He said he couldn't see a future with her anymore because he wanted to be with another girl, who we all knew she wasn't interested in him (which is a bit strange, why give up on 4 year r'ship to chase her if she's not interested)Anyways, my friend has always been a one girl kinda guy, never interested in going out and seeing or dating lots of girls and definately disgusted in the thought of one night stands. But that is what he started doing.
He started seeing a girl, who is in our circle of friends (you could call her an aquaintance), they had a night together. Afterwards he said he 'freaked out'. He told her he wasn't interested to continue seeing her, because he jumped in without thinking and it was a mistake & felt wrong. He said he wanted to be back with his girlfriend.
As a friend, I felt he was going of the rails. Just they way he spoke and all these things he was telling me.
It wasn't his normal behaviour.. After this last girl, he seemed to have got alot worse, he says he doesn't feel like he has anything to offer anyone anymore and he feels he is a failure to him self and his family..
This is he part im really concerned about........
I knew he used to cut himself when we were younger, in our teens, but now ive found out he had started cutting himself again. Mosty to the soles of his feet and his thighs so no-one can see.. I have found out this from seein bloody tissues and noticing him limping. When i asked him if he is cutting again, he burst into tears and said he has been. He lives on his own, myself and his family are a 3 hour drive away so he hasn't got family close by.. He has few friends in his area but they don't know half of what has been going on..
We are very close friends, and i have stood by him through thick and thin, but i have become drained of energy seeing him turn into someone i hardly recognise. He seems happy when i go visit, but i feel it's just a brave face... I have run out of suggestions..
Any advise would be great...
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