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Does anyone know of any help available. If I was on drugs or an alcoholic I'm sure I'd be able to simply find help - but I'm simply hooked on pornography and MUST put an end to it. I've tried online help but I realise I need one-on-one help either on the phone or in person. But it's not the kind of thing I'm comfortable talking to a GP about...! One thing is for sure, if I don't stop this I'll stop bringing in an income for the family! It's just so difficult to stop...!!
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Oh, I should add any ideas must be free of charge because I simply have no money nor are bringing any in... that's how bad things have become!
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I'm really not an expert in this area at all but your post got me wondering. Porn addiction is like any other addiction. Maybe there are some strategies available for dealing with this in a similar way to other addictions.
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I am no expert on this either, but I know this is an increasingly common addiction, and one that a lot of relationship counsellors would have had some experience of. Have you tried looking for counselling services in the database on this site? Some of them are free. I would suggest that you need to start looking at the emotional basis for this compulsion. What feelings does it bring to the surface when you don't use the porn? Compulsions like this are usually a way to avoid some painful emotion.
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Post #36
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Does your wife know about it? maybe if you shared it with her this might de-power its fantasy and its hold on you if you feel like it is something you are doing that is daring and naughty. I know its not as simple as that, but why do you suppose your so enthralled by Porn?. Maybe thats worth voicing here to.
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You could try several things if struggling to find a counsellor. Firstly Patrick Carnes (the most noted pioneer/expert in this area) has written extensivly on it ant you can get his books on amazon and a dvd course from his site . help.com (ithink?) You could also try The addiction workbook by New Harbinger Press (ISBN 1-57224-376-7). This is quite cheap and very helpful if alone. Furthermore, blocking software is helpful if internet based. Cybersitter is good, requires just a one off payment, and can have daily reports sent to an accountability partner so theres no dark secrets - anonimity is one of the largest problems here. Finally, it has been noted by many addicts that this is the hardest addiction to break as your uality is carried with you and ographic images are remembered for years after being viewed so help is best is possible but usually very expensive due to its specialization. Other than that look for SAA or SLAA groups on the internet to get a local one - these are Aholics Ananymous and and love Addicts Anonymous - 12 step approaches. Hope this helps.
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I've had this problem as well. It's the second major addiction that I've had to overcome in my life. I've found that the best way for me to to deal has been to:
- communicate honestly about the problem with my partner and friends so she/they help me feel less isolated
- set some difficult but filfilling life goals that will be hard to reach without doing lots of work... I've found there is no real way to "confront" and solve the problem, but if I occupy myself with other activities that are rewarding in a different way, this really doesn't give me any time to be naughty.
This seems to be working for me, but I must admit that I still think about it a lot at this stage. That has been dwindling though. I think its a kind of skill, finding your own locus of control...
Hope this helps dude.
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I felt that I was inthe same situation as you a few years ago. What I was doing was escping into a world where I was able to get away from the life that I had. A fantasy world. You need to look hard at the life you have and what you are NOT getting in your life. It may be something as simple as a little acknowledgement from your wife / partner - are you bored with your life, partner - I strongly suggest you talk to a counsellor and identify what you want - a fantasy life or a real life.
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Post #97
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I am sure that several of the religious groups would have help for this such as the Salvo's etc. At least they are a starting point.
Have you tried calling the Mens help line and talking to a counsellor?
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Post #108
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Hi there,
I have got the same dilema addicted to porn/sex and haveing problems finding someone to help me get over it..
I am so glad to know that I am not the only one to be in this situation and not being being able to work, I agree that to some degree that it's mind over matter and even saying that it's hard to deal with.
Best of luck
mike
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