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Ten ways to become a better partner

Relationships are at the core of our lives. Relating and engaging with others can result in a mixed bag of emotions, such as excitement, fear, anticipation, elation, struggle, closeness, dread, intimacy and loneliness. In a positive relationship, both partners feel valued, loved and nurtured. 

To get the most out of your relationship, consider the following tips: 

  1. Develop a sense of trust - that is feeling that you can both be seen, heard, understood and accepted.
  2. Recognise that physical closeness is only one expression of intimacy. Intimacy can be verbal (e.g. telling your partner why you love them or things that you love about them), and it can also be expressed by doing special things for your partner or generally helping out with daily living tasks.
  3. Acknowledge each other’s need to be autonomous and to make your own decisions sometimes.
  4. Create a safe and open place, where you can both express problems, doubts, fears and weaknesses without fear of rejection or punishment.
  5. Be willing to communicate. This often includes sharing feelings, needs and wants. Note: Listening to your partners problems does not necessarily mean you are responsible for solving them.
  6. Be open to negotiate around your differences with respect and generosity. You are not going to get your own way all the time.
  7. Aim to be aware of personal issues you bring to the relationship (sometimes called ‘baggage’), and take responsibility for these. Also be aware of the expectations you may place on others and assess how realistic they are.
  8. Regular time alone gives you space to recharge and rebalance. This will allow you to give more in your relationship in the long-run.
  9. Maintain and build a supportive network of friends outside the relationship. No single relationship will meet every need.
  10. Develop the capacity to not take yourself and everything else too seriously. 
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User comments

29-Mar-14 02:29 PM
i need to do alot of work on myself it seems
19-Feb-14 08:23 PM
I like this. I have been looking in many places for some direction. I like these simple steps I can take.
11-Aug-12 09:42 AM
Seems I need to some work on improving many areas including communication and trust. Don't know where to start
18-May-12 01:12 AM
thats sounds good, i will try that and get back with u guys to update u, thanks
22-Aug-11 08:43 PM
Again these notes \/points are posativley pointing me into the right direction I require thx people